Have faith and belief first in yourself, for without that you cannot believe
in God.
Swami Vivekananda [1863-1902]
As parents, we must first take responsibility for who we are so that in turn we help create fearless lives for our children.
This response-ability begins right from the moment of planning a baby.
The nine months of creation in the womb are the most important months of parental awareness.
Ancient wisdom reveres the sacred womb. An aspiring mother needs to first alleviate her fears and create a healthy space within, to hold the magic of harmonic creation.
Begin this inner work well before the time of conception. A state of aspiration prepares the energy field for an exceptional being. Elders must talk about this aspect to those who are ready for marriage.
An aspiring mother needs an awakened consciousness for her developing baby to experience physical harmony, mental wellness, inner beauty, peace and harmony. This is a spiritual truth we must adhere to.
Mere physical conception is insufficient. It begins with the conception of good thoughts, good actions and will power.
Aspiring parents should sit together quietly and hold a sincere intent to manifest an ideal child.
This effort of affirming and visualizing makes maternity precious.
A single, powerful, loving thought embraces the intention way more than frivolous words which hold petty interests.
In order to give birth to the ideal contented child, the wife must be treated as an equal by her husband,with mutual respect and love at all times.
An aspiring mother must strive to mentally exceed her mundane human qualities and clear her past pain to create, manifest and give birth to a happy heart.
The education of a child begins at this point of intent.
Parents must become conscious of their own thoughts and actions first. By doing so,they set a good example for themselves, for each other and for their baby.
The highest education always comes through effective example.
Once a child is brought into the world we live in, it is our sacred task to always tell them the truth.
Whenever a child has a question, always know that it is best to tell them the truth in a simple way that the child can grasp.
An answer using our own life experience is best because it inspires and motivates a child.
Simple daily stories of valor, courage, patience, understanding, forgiveness, letting go and gratitude when read to little children till they are seven years young, builds a strong foundation for life.
Encourage reading and listening.
For this to happen, parents must fill their own lack of patience, understanding, unselfishness, forgiveness, unselfishness, courage, sincerity and self-control. Or else the child is adversely affected.
Children have an innate sense of right. Their wisdom is father of Man.
When parents resort to criticising, judging and blaming, they are sowing seeds of guilt, shame and low self-worth. Such a child grows up to remain incomplete in many areas of healthy self worth.
The child feels condemned and may become a rebel. Unstoppable at times. Parents need to educate themselves. Ignorance on how to be rooted in sensibility for ourselves is the root of harming our children.
Encouragement, approval and praise makes a child learn appreciation and gratitude. As a parent is fair and just, the child learns justice and feels secure,expanding faith in herself and others.
Just as a farmer uses wisdom, patience and perseverance to reap a wholesome harvest each year, so does a parent who lays down rules of behavior for the child to follow. A child understands these boundaries and finds freedom and trust within them.
To deal with a child’s irregular habits, a parent must first clear the anger within and then sit down and explain what is good for the child.
When we point out what is in our perspective wrong, it makes the child obstinate at times. It is wise to move away from all physical punishment. Speak the language of discipline from the heart of the soul.
A child knows she is being watched. She is happy to follow directions which are lovingly explained for her good.
She uses her common sense. When there is particular stress with certain children, look within and we will most likely see our own childhood!
Support a child rather than use pressure. Children are keenly perceptive.They are all too aware of parental support and parental pressure.
Show them by example that they too can be independent rather than lean on us.
Let them see in our eyes that we mean every word we say.That they feel safe to believe in us completely all the way.
That we accept their failing and falling, with grace and we are present to help raise them yet again.
Train them to build on the power of today.
They will absorb endurance… a strength of purpose that will help them surmount all challenges.
This is more than enough to keep their young hearts forever fresh and light.
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